Terrific threes?

Yep apparently some parents have their ‘terrible two’ year olds converted in to a ‘terrific three’ year old over night. I’m not sure how much it costs or if it’s a secret cult you need to be part of, but it definitely didn’t happen here.
Noah has just learnt to be slightly more manipulative and to copy our parenting methods. One example is with choices. I have learnt that given his choices gives him a sense of power and can by pass some power struggles (tantrums). It has worked really well and really opened my eyes to the gentle parenting method. It’s not always the solution but generally giving him a choice helps him to make a good decision and understand why he is feeling frustrated.

However he does use this against us, if he doesn’t like that we are telling him it’s bed time. He will give me two choices, I can either go to bed or go in the garden. This is amazing because I would love to go to bed at 7pm and leave all mum duties for someone else, he doesn’t realise that it isn’t a punishment. Or another tactic he uses is making me laugh when he knows he had driven me mad. He does this by mimicking my method of calming him down, he touches my cheek and says “look, I know you are getting grumpy, let’s have a cuddle”. Number 1. I am so proud of him for understanding that you can calm a situation by helping someone with a cuddle and I hope he does this at nursery, number 2. He sounds so damn cute that I end up nearly in happy tears and forget whatever he has done to cause me to be grumpy. See, he is a genius at just 3. He is no better behaved than he was when he was two, he is just now very clever at making me forget what he has done.
Honestly sometimes I think we could rent him out as a form of punishment. Days when he just wants to hear his own voice, refuses to even stop talking to eat, demands and steals food every 5 minutes and flat out refuses to stop chasing the dog. The days when only a mum could love him!

If anyone is struggling with a terrible two or three, four, five year old. I would really take a look at the gentle parenting method, it really brings you back to thinking of your child as a little person that can often understand much more than they can communicate. It had helped me to explain things to noah instead of asking him to do something and getting frustrated when he doesn’t do it, such as asking him to tidy up. He never did it because that term is so vague, now I say “please can you put your train set away in the green box, your books back on the shelf and your pirate ship on the top shelf” and it works. He doesn’t get frustrated and then gets praised for helping me.

Don’t get me wrong, not everything in the method works for us, a few things like not praising children or encouraging competition just don’t sit well with me. I use lots of different phrases to say well done or good problem solving and sometimes competition is good. For example some days the only way to get noah to dress himself is so say “ I bet you can’t put your socks on as quickly as I can” and he does it! So I think it’s a win that I can encourage a toddler to wear clothes let alone put them on himself and leave the house!
Take a look for yourself and see if it helps you, there is also a Facebook group for gentle parenting which is so helpful and people are always there to ask for advice with specific issues.
Wish me luck!
Jess x

‘take it easy’

I’m still feeling full of cold and unable to take anything that might actually help as I’m breastfeeding Oswin, so today I decided to ‘take it easy’. So in a man’s world (sorry to stereotype, maybe just my man’s world) today this looked liked this:
Matt work up with noah at 7, made him breakfast and got him dressed. Forgot to back noah’s bag for the childminders and moaned about it not being time for him to go yet. Eventually at 9:15 he took him, came home and had a nap, got ready for work and went by 14:30. He was home before 1am.
My take it easy day whilst noah was at the childminders until 1:30: got up, changed and dressed Oswin, breakfast, put washing in, went food shopping, put washing out, put more washing in, washed out nappies and put them in the bucket, hoovered, fed Oswin and cuddled her to sleep, snuck out from under her and put more washing out and stripped bedding off. I finallyΒ  made a tea and sat down to stuff all the nappies (as no-one else seems to understand them) and she woke up screaming. I then had to go pick noah up and the rest of the afternoon/evening was non stop with overtired noah and teething Oswin.
I was still awake until about 1:30 am feeding a gorgeous little monkey that just wouldn’t sleep! All in the same amount of time, yet matt seemed shocked that I was tired when he came home!
Ah start again tomorrow…
….**yaaaawwwwn**….

Oswin had a nap in her @poddle_pod toddle pod today (never happens, I usually cuddle her) and how gorgeous is this blanket that matches her peachy cheeks! 😘 @aldiuk #aldibabyevent #heartsblanket #babiesofinstagram #Oswin #parentblogger #mummyblog #8monthsold

The @nick.sharratt exhibition was brilliant today, we had such a great time playing and we didn’t realise he illustrated so many of our favourite books! Also our @drmartensofficial game was strong today with two compliments within about 4 minutes πŸ˜‹ @hitchingram @thewhitehousehitchin

Beautiful family adventure today in Hitchin, we went to the new museum, the #thewhitehouse cafe then to see the ducks. #familytime @connecta_baby #connecta #wearallthebabies #mummyblog #Oswin #soufflegirl #gothvibes #blackismyhappycolor

I saw this cartoon earlier and it made me smile, I saved it on my phone to show matt but I forgot, I have come back to it tonight realising it has summarised my week pretty perfectly.

So noah’s first week of nursery, what could go wrong? Apart from finding a nit walking across his head this afternoon whilst having a mummy and noah car picnic? That’s fine, it’s not like he bit someone or was left without a lunch one day because I didn’t realise I had to make one!… Wait, actually all of those things happened! This week really has been a bit of a roller-coaster with most members of the family being ill and now winnie with an inhaler. Honestly is there ever a time you don’t worry when you have babies?

This weekend alone has had some parenting gold moments and a couple of truly crap ones. So let’s do a list!
Crap moment number 1: coming downstairs on Friday morning to either the cat or dog taking a protest poo on the back door mat, which happens to be in our beige carpeted living room and right next to floor length door curtains. The curtains were obviously used in replacement of toilet roll and they clearly felt the need to make sure the mat would need to be thrown away, thanks pets that we love and feed daily!!!
Number 2: Noah generally terrorising cyd (our tiny neurotic yorkie) and now she has turned in to an under the sofa troll. She had decided that under there she can sound much scarier and we can’t reach her. So now that’s where she sits all day growling that anything that moves. Especially noah as he barks in her face or tries to stroke her one moment after the other. This constantly for 2 days has made me understand why wine exists.
Number 3: noah’s nits, although I only found one actual walking one, he was covered in the eggs. It was just me and him doing a food shop today but once I saw it I felt itchy and kept imagining them eating him, so we left the shopping and just went home to tackle the little vampires.
He has beautifully scruffy hair and having to pull the comb through was torture. He would not sit still for two seconds and no amount of bribery or persuasion worked. I have no idea how many smarties I promised him but thank God he can’t count confidently yet. He thinks 4 is really big!
Number 4: winnie finally fell asleep on me after quite a struggle this evening. She had a few coughs here and there and then at one point sat up coughing and getting frustrated. She had a little bit of sick so I wiped it away, next thing I knew she had turned in to a potential for the reboot of the Exorcist. Yep and facing me on my lap so every bit of sick made a warm and slushy mess down all of me and my trousers!

Thankfully with my little ones they usually make me smile and laugh a good few times a day.
Noah started yesterday by telling me and nanny a pretty perfectly recalled story of going to Australia on 3 aeroplanes. He told us he had to change planes at the airports and that the lady in took his bag and he watched her weigh it on the scales. He said the numbers went up and down. He then told us the lady at the next airport looked in the bag using a big looking machine.
Genuinely no idea how he knows all that but I think it was a flash back from being around before!
Winnie clapped for the first time yesterday and now loves you saying clever girl. We made cupcakes together successful edible ones, and finally noah whilst wanting to check my teeth for Dinosaurs asked me to open my mouth. I said OK if you sing hold back the river (just because he has the cutest voice). The clever little monkey sang “hold back the river let me look at your teeth” and giggled to himself. He is just too funny, he honestly has a better sense of humour and comedic timing that most adults I know. So yep we will never be more tired, more worried and full of things we need to do but mums really do have the best job in the world. We get little moments that show us how clever we are to have raised such sweet little humans that will grow up to do amazing things. In 10,20 years we won’t care that the washing up wasn’t done or anything, we will just see the little people we made and cherished. X

I saw this cartoon earlier and it made me smile, I saved it on my phone to show matt but I forgot, I have come back to it tonight realising it has summarised my week pretty perfectly.

So noah’s first week of nursery, what could go wrong? Apart from finding a nit walking across his head this afternoon whilst having a mummy and noah car picnic? That’s fine, it’s not like he bit someone or was left without a lunch one day because I didn’t realise I had to make one!… Wait, actually all of those things happened! This week really has been a bit of a roller-coaster with most members of the family being ill and now winnie with an inhaler. Honestly is there ever a time you don’t worry when you have babies?

This weekend alone has had some parenting gold moments and a couple of truly crap ones. So let’s do a list!
Crap moment number 1: coming downstairs on Friday morning to either the cat or dog taking a protest poo on the back door mat, which happens to be in our beige carpeted living room and right next to floor length door curtains. The curtains were obviously used in replacement of toilet roll and they clearly felt the need to make sure the mat would need to be thrown away, thanks pets that we love and feed daily!!!
Number 2: Noah generally terrorising cyd (our tiny neurotic yorkie) and now she has turned in to an under the sofa troll. She had decided that under there she can sound much scarier and we can’t reach her. So now that’s where she sits all day growling that anything that moves. Especially noah as he barks in her face or tries to stroke her one moment after the other. This constantly for 2 days has made me understand why wine exists.
Number 3: noah’s nits, although I only found one actual walking one, he was covered in the eggs. It was just me and him doing a food shop today but once I saw it I felt itchy and kept imagining them eating him, so we left the shopping and just went home to tackle the little vampires.
He has beautifully scruffy hair and having to pull the comb through was torture. He would not sit still for two seconds and no amount of bribery or persuasion worked. I have no idea how many smarties I promised him but thank God he can’t count confidently yet. He thinks 4 is really big!
Number 4: winnie finally fell asleep on me after quite a struggle this evening. She had a few coughs here and there and then at one point sat up coughing and getting frustrated. She had a little bit of sick so I wiped it away, next thing I knew she had turned in to a potential for the reboot of the Exorcist. Yep and facing me on my lap so every bit of sick made a warm and slushy mess down all of me and my trousers!

Thankfully with my little ones they usually make me smile and laugh a good few times a day.
Noah started yesterday by telling me and nanny a pretty perfectly recalled story of going to Australia on 3 aeroplanes. He told us he had to change planes at the airports and that the lady in took his bag and he watched her weigh it on the scales. He said the numbers went up and down. He then told us the lady at the next airport looked in the bag using a big looking machine.
Genuinely no idea how he knows all that but I think it was a flash back from being around before!
Winnie clapped for the first time yesterday and now loves you saying clever girl. We made cupcakes together successful edible ones, and finally noah whilst wanting to check my teeth for Dinosaurs asked me to open my mouth. I said OK if you sing hold back the river (just because he has the cutest voice). The clever little monkey sang “hold back the river let me look at your teeth” and giggled to himself. He is just too funny, he honestly has a better sense of humour and comedic timing that most adults I know. So yep we will never be more tired, more worried and full of things we need to do but mums really do have the best job in the world. We get little moments that show us how clever we are to have raised such sweet little humans that will grow up to do amazing things. In 10,20 years we won’t care that the washing up wasn’t done or anything, we will just see the little people we made and cherished. X